One of the least appealing things about being a Feminist progressive leftist is the way my fellow Feminists, my fellow progressives, my fellow leftists are always trying to shame me into feeling insufficiently Feminist, or not progressive enough, or a bit too close to the center and too far from the Leftist Ideal.
Because we progressive leftists are very polite, the shaming from the progressives and leftists is always passive-aggressive.
But we Feminists can be pretty abrasive, especially when encountering The Patriarchy and all those walking examples of misogyny.
Personally, for reasons I don't quite understand,* I am a bit more comfortable with the abrasive approach of my fellow Feminists. I don't sit very comfortably among people who prefer passive-aggression. I prefer it when people actually say what they mean, rather than trying to force you to feel inferior for not agreeing with them.
In the past few months, I've noticed my fellow progressive leftists getting very preachy and moralist about their progressiveness and leftism. Lines are being drawn in the sand. But only indirectly by implication, as is standard for passive-aggressive people.
For example, love and admiration of cats is considered and assumed to be essential to the progressive and leftist lifestyles. In times of relative positivity, the progressive and leftist show this by constantly using those "LOLcat" creations to make a point -- and in so doing, they suggest that they (the progressive or leftist) are clever and superior for supporting the feline sector of the animal kingdom, while also suggesting that the felines are superior for supposedly sharing in the progressive or leftist view of life.
This tends to bother me, because what I've found from dealing with cats over my lifetime is that cats are far more reactionary, conservative, and --do I dare say this?-- stupid. Not only that, they are distinctly and profoundly anti-social. And arrogantly aloof.
Maybe that's why many leftists and progressives admire cats? The arrogant aloofness? As in, "Yes, I am superior, and just like my arrogantly aloof cat who couldn't care less about you or your reactionary views."
This perspective of greatness by affiliation rests upon a mistaken view of cats. As I said, they're stupid! Why would you try to affiliate with stupidity, while pretending to be intellectually superior?
Ultimately, the best animal for a self-respecting, self-sufficient, independent-minded person is a dog. But not just any dog! Some dogs are far more like cats -- meaning, stupid! aloof! and snobbish!
The cat is your friend only because you give it food. Hence, aloof. "You want to play, human servant? That's nice. Go get a stupid dog," says the cat. Projecting its stupidity onto dogs, the cat obscures the cat fan's awareness of cat stupidity.
The cat won't go backpacking with you and let you know about the presence of animals you may want to investigate or observe. The cat wants you to give it a crystal bowl of caviar-like Upscale Food and then leave it alone to groom its perfect coat of white angora fur.
In short, the cat is a lot like the stereotypical Gay Friend in a movie or sitcom.
Which probably explains why my fellow progressives and leftists like them, because it seems that affiliation with gayness is the ultimate trump card for a leftist or progressive.
Shame, for being heterosexual!
I remain confused by the ironic impulse of my fellow Feminists, leftists and progressives toward behavior that actually resembles the sorts of closed-minded, backward-oriented and reactionary viewpoint that my fellow Feminists, leftists and progressives so often complain about.
Maybe someone can help explain this situation? I remain optimistic about it, though guardedly so.
* I'm not too introspective, though I do enjoy being mistaken for an intellectual.